I Am 41 Today!

This is my 4th year of posting some personal shares about me on my birthday. Thanks for celebrating with me. I hope you enjoy!

  1. “I’m a mother” is a complete sentence.
  2. It’s okay to devote yourself to being a mom.
  3. I think fashion and style can be a deep form of self-expression.
  4. I love decorating and beautifying my space.
  5. Now that I have kids I love Halloween and can’t wait for their next costumes.
  6. I love and celebrate the Holidays; gifts, lights, tree and all.
  7. I like reading books about prosperity.
  8. I don’t have much of a green thumb but I hope to some day.
  9. I’m a big fan of goals and that wasn’t always the case.
  10. I often have incense burning.
  11. When I was in High School I wanted to go to fashion school.
  12. My parents used to gift me paintings as a kid.
  13. I’m not a minimalist.
  14. I think I used to judge myself around that.
  15. I don’t anymore.
  16. I love adornment.
  17. I ‘ve never held a job for a long period of time.
  18. I think about de-activating my Facebook account pretty often.
  19. Then I think about what a great tool it is to connect with my soul tribe.
  20. I utilize the unfollow feature pretty generously.
  21. I haven’t see any of the movies nominated for an Academy Award this season yet.
  22. It’s kind of an event for me to go to the movies.
  23. I like pretty stationary.
  24. In fact, I like pretty/beautiful things period!
  25. I think beauty is an aspect of the Divine.
  26. I can’t live without it. It’s fine with me if you can.
  27. I used to play the flute in Jr. High.
  28. My mom says I used to shut my door and play the flute when I was upset.
  29. I don’t like sarcasm.
  30. I think a lot of intolerance masquerades as tolerance.
  31. I’m a compassionate coach.
  32. I lovingly guide, teach, challenge.
  33. I’m thoughtful with my words.
  34. I’m no saint, but I’m a good person.
  35. I’ve had some adventures that need to be written about!
  36. My kids have these BIG BROWN EYES that make me swoon.
  37. Being a Mamapreneur of two little ones really stretches me sometimes.
  38. I fee like I’m entering a new portal of maturity.
  39. Responsibility, focus, planning, discipline are now things I desire.
  40. I know see how they enhance my freedom and creativity.
  41. Cheers to another year of challenge and growth.





Sometimes picking a niche can feel like your forcing yourself into a box. I know it felt that way for me at one point. Some of my clients can feel like they are being asked to limit themselves. For a creative person, it can feel like tying a noose around your neck.

However, picking a niche doesn’t have to be limiting at all, unless you make it that way. Everything that you know and all the tools you have are all available to you no matter what your niche is. You can still help your clients with other areas of their life that are not your niche.

Often times, the things that I hear people calling their niche are just ways they support clients, not the niche itself. There’s the WHO {what group of people and the problem they are having} you help and the HOW {what process, exercises, tools} you help them.

Have you figured out who you help, what you help them with and how you do it?

If you are struggling with your niche, be willing to test one out for a time and you’ll know if you need to change it or make adjustments. It’s a process of self awareness and discovery that you can choose to have fun with.

Happy picking!



I talk to many coaches who question the value of their coaching services or minimize the impact they have on their clients.
Sometimes, it can seem intangible to put into words how a coaching conversation leads to someone taking specific actions that lead to their desired outcome.

One of the ways to see what you offer and provide as a coach is to write down what you give to your clients after each session.
Some of these things might include, but are not limited to:

~ Sharing a book recommendation.
~ Sharing a business tool that they’ve never heard of.
~ A website reference that will help them.
~ Help with their copy.
~ Pulling the pearls from a large pool of ideas.
~ Assistance with a workshop or class outline.
~ What to say and how to say it.
~ Processing an upset.
~ Validating their strengths.
~ Role playing a sales conversation or other important conversation.
~ The specific next steps to take to get to where they want to go.
~ A concrete action plan to move forward.
~ Pointing out where they are sabotaging themselves or where they are not giving themselves credit.
~ Figuring out your pricing, package or unique offer.
~ and much, much more!

Are you aware of the specific ways you assist your clients to get what they want by working with you? Start writing it down, you will be amazed all the ways you are serving your clients.



Take Your Power Back…

You don’t have to do it, if you don’t want to do it.
You are allowed to leave or dismiss yourself if it doesn’t feed you.
You don’t have to do it their way.
You can stop asking for permission to be you.
It’s your party and you can cry if you want to.
It’s okay if what worked for you yesterday, doesn’t work today.
You don’t need a reason other then on account of because.
You are free to change your mind.
It’s not about them, it’s about you and your Higher Power.
They can think what they want.
Know who you are.
Know where you come from.
Trust your journey of wisdom.
Let anything and anyone go that doesn’t feel good.
You are free to create what you want to create.
You don’t have to wait on anybody.
Take a stand for you.
Hold your hand and say I’m here.

Take Your Power Back…


We had class 2/8 of my Client Creation Program last night. These women are amazing! They are creating their offerings, setting dates for their first workshops, stretching themselves, becoming friends and doing it in style. My heart feels so full after each call


What Tools Do You Use in Your Coaching Biz? I use:

~ Acuity for scheduling
~ GetResponse for email marketing
~ Freeconfrencing for conference calls
~ Lead pages for landing pages
~ PayPal and Stripe for payment processing
~ Pic monkey for photo editing
~ Zoom for videoconferencing



If you’re looking to gain some instant traction in your business, set a date to do the thing you’ve been thinking about doing or putting off doing. For some people, it can seem counter intuitive to set a date before you have everything set in place. However, setting a date is the difference between an idea and it being manifest.

When you set a date, it’s time to show up. Without a date, you can postpone showing up and even never show up. The date can be the ignition you need to kick things into gear. Now, you have to prepare! And since we are talking about dates, if someone wanted to take you on a date and kept saying we should go on a date sometime, but never wanted to pick a date, eventually you’d be like he’s playing games or not really serious.

When you set your intention to do something by a specific time or on a specific day you are choosing to make it a reality. That being said, things are not set in stone and you can change the date if you need to. For those of you who struggle with implementing one idea through to completion, setting a date and following through will make the difference. Rinse and Repeat!



My previous experience doing home parties in the Direct Sales industry, taught me a lot of about the limiting beliefs and fears that many women have around selling their products and services.

I saw women express worry or concern at being seen as salesy or pushy or feeling like they were doing something wrong by selling. Some women were completely uncomfortable calling people to share the business opportunity or to see if they wanted to book a party. That was pretty amazing given that they thought enough of the product to invest in it themselves.

Frequently, I would hear people say things like “I don’t know that many people”, “she doesn’t have the money”, “she wouldn’t be interested”, “I don’t want her to think I’m a part of some MLM scam” etc. In other words, reasons not to do anything that would feel the slightest bit uncomfortable or make you look bad in the eyes of others.

One of the ways to book parties was to make a list of everyone you knew and start reaching out to people to let them know what you were up to. Another way was to throw your own party and book parties from that one. Or to participate in someone else’s event where you could share the product and book parties that way.

I think the same marketing tools of direct sales apply to sharing your coaching services. If it’s challenging to come up with a list of potential leads in your network, you’re in resistance. If setting a date to host an event keeps getting pushed further and further out, you’re in resistance. If coming up with one package to offer potential clients seems really complicated, you’re in resistance.

Resistance is fear. Fear of not being good enough, fear about what others will think, fear of not doing it right or not being perfect, fear of getting a no or fear of rejection.

Leaning into the fear is courage. It takes courage and vulnerability to sell. It takes putting yourself out there to get crickets, praise and/or sales. In fact, making sales requires you to be open which exposes you to being hurt or to being appreciated more than you can receive or feel worthy of.

How does it land with you that it takes courage to sell?

If you’re looking for the guidance and support to take courageous strides in your life and business, let’s set up a Business Clarity Call.


PS- This is me using the products I was selling.



asianwomanSelf-Care becomes even more pivotal to your life when starting and growing your coaching practice. It takes a certain amount of energy and bandwidth to hold space for others, create content, market your services, lead discovery calls, engage your community, deliver coaching sessions, launch programs and the list goes on and on.

It becomes very easy to dedicate all your time to your business needs. However, you are the foundation of your business and if you are worn out, uninspired, sick, stressed out, you don’t have much to offer the people you want to serve. Not only that, you become less available for divine inspiration to flow through you.

Self-care is not limited to pampering yourself, although I love me some pampering! It also includes, setting boundaries, making sure you are eating properly, getting enough rest, unplugging from technology and business related activities. It means setting up business systems and structures to make things run easier for you.

Most importantly, self-care is having the support of at least one person who has your back as you do the brave work of being visible and sharing your body of work in the market place. I am so grateful to have Mike with me every step of the way along with the private and group coaching I personally receive.

If you are craving private 1:1 support to birth your coaching business, let’s have a converation talk about how I can help you get your first paying or next paying clients.


PS- How will you practice self-care this week?

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