The first meet-up I hosted was centered around a book. I’d never held a group before and I thought that organizing it around a book would be a great way for me to start. Still, I had reservations about leading a group about finding your soulmate when I hadn’t found “the one” and I was so frustrated with my dating experiences at the time.

I had thoughts like “how I can I help people find their mate when I haven’t found mine?”, “what if they ask me questions, I don’t know the answer to?”, and “what if nobody shows up?” Blah, blah, blah, blah, blah.

The other part of me thought, well I’m not claiming to have all the answers nor pretending that I’ve found my soulmate. Additionally, I realized that:
a) I really wanted to go through this book myself
b) I wanted to bring women together and facilitate the process
c) as a coach I didn’t need to have the answers but the questions that would lead to the answer.

Well guess what happened? 8 people signed up for that class. I FINALLY, went through this book that had been sitting on my shelf for years. As the leader, I had to go through the material so I could make the lesson plans. AND, I actually connected with my partner during that class and we have 2 kids.

Stepping up to lead and take more responsibility opened the door to ACTUALLY create the thing that I wanted.

Is there something that you’ve been wanting to offer or teach but feel like you are not qualified?

I recently listened to a program I created a few years ago called BLOOM INTO YOUR ABUNDANCE: The Art of Womanifesting. Being that it had been a couple of years since I heard it, I received it with new eyes and perspective.

I hadn’t planned on listening to the whole thing because it’s over 7 hours long. But, I got sucked into my own program and was amazed that I was having that reaction to it. I was actually able to go through the material as a participant. Of course, I enjoyed teaching it and I had so much fun creating it, but I don’t think I knew how good it actually was.

One of my biggest takeaways as a participant was to identify the qualities I think manifesting a particular thing would bring into my life and to start cultivating that quality NOW. I was also reminded how important it is to take focused action but to release attachment to the how and when of something coming.

I recommend reviewing your material when you aren’t trying to make sales or looking for feedback so you can get an objective view of your work. It can be so easy to see your own work through the lens of your own biases and take in everyone else’s stuff with an objective point of view.

Its such a rewarding feeling to digest something you’ve created with no agenda and notice how it makes YOU feel. And I gotta tell you it felt pretty darn good!