Taking Time to Smell the Roses

 mikeandkadidja

This time last year I was in nervous anticipation of my first child. I was thinking about going into labor and what that would be like. I was making sure we had everything, checking things off the list.

Do we have all the supplies we need for our home birth and everything set up for after the birth? Make sure the house is clean, and that things are in order, oh and don’t forget to get the rugs and couches steam cleaned, dust isn’t good for babies.

Even though people said you don’t need that much, there’s a part of me that didn’t believe them. I’d rather have it just in case. I guess it’s the kind of thing you can’t know ahead of time. That all your baby needs is you.

I could go on and on about all the things I am learning about life and humanity that my daughter Naima is teaching me. One of the major things she reminds me of is that life is about the simple pleasures, like looking for treasures inside of the recycling and displaying them all over the kitchen floor.

Where can you take time to smell the roses and appreciate the simple pleasures this week?

39 Pieces of Ka-Dee-Zsa on Her Birthday

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1. I wrote 38 things about myself for my birthday last year and I think I might want to make it a tradition.
2. My birthday wish last year was to have a beautiful birth experience and a healthy baby.
3. That wish came true and much faster than I would have ever managed, less than 3 hours.
4. My full name is Kadidja Didi Mouke Yansane.
5. Pronounced Ha or Ka- dee -zsa -dee- dee -moo- kay- yanh- sah- nay.
6. I Introduce myself as Kah- dee -zsa Yanh -sah -nee.
7. I didn’t see the Oscars.
8. The last cd I bought was Sam Smith.
9. I am one of those collage people.
10. Personal Development really is a passion of mine.
11. Owning a bed and breakfast later in life seems like it would be fun.
12. Ministerial or Practitioner Studies is something I consider every now and again.
13. I love vintage and antique shopping.
14. I just moved to the Bay Area so we could be close to my parents/ her grand-parents.
15. I listen to the Beyonce station on Pandora a lot. Lol.
16. I typically don’t give unsolicited advice or feedback.
17. I am loving being a mom and watching my daughter grow.
18. She truly is a joy. And that doesn’t even express the half of it.
19. She moans herself to sleep. It is quite hilarious.
20. Sometimes it seems as though I need more arms to do things with her.
21. I was surprised to see how opinionated people are about breastfeeding and how long I am going to do it.
22. I don’t know when I am going to stop. I am sure it will be before she graduates High School.
23. A famous person I would love to sit down with and talk to is Deepak Chopra.
24. You may say that I am a dreamer but I am not the only one.
25. I have had a lot of amazing women and men in my life as mentors.
26. I think I’m pretty open when you put loving and sincere attention on me.
27. I have had some girlfriend break ups that still hurt.
28. I am grateful for the space and time that I have for introspection.
29. Mike brought me some beautiful flowers this morning.
30. I write myself birthday cards and Valentine’s Day Cards.
31. I’m proud of my Berkeley roots.
32. I don’t think everyone needs to get married or have children and people should just leave people alone.
33. I’ve never been the Oh I love cooking woman. But there is more desire there.Been pulling out the cookbooks.
34. I’m not sure what my specific birthday wish is yet, but I think it would be good to make one because wishes come true.
35. I am overflowing with life wishes.
36. Even though I am a people person, my seemingly extroverted nature might be concealing a little shyness.
37. I just got on twitter and I don’t get it yet.
38. I’d like to start interviewing all the awesome people I know, so I might be calling you.
39.I am looking forward to turning the Big 4-0 next year.

This is Your Year

New year 2015

Happy New Year Beautiful,

I hope your New Year is off to an amazing start. On New Year’ Day, I held a Tele-Class called A Gathering of Women~Creating 2015. It was a rich and meaningful way to set the tone for the coming year. Since then my family and I have conjured a bigger place to call home with a backyard for the little girl. I am seeing her kiddy pool now even though she hasn’t learned to crawl just yet.

The New Year is such a fertile time to reflect and evaluate where you are and plant the seeds for where you want to be. It is filled with the hope and promise of a new beginning, a fresh start, a chance to be more of who you really are and create what matters the most to you.

It’s an opening to clear out the old and make room for the new. The magical power of this is magnified when experinced with others. So if you haven’t already taken out the time to acknowledge and celebrate the heroic journey you walked in 2014, it’s not too late.

What difficulties did you face and see through to other side?

BAby and meOne of the biggest challenges I overcame in 2014 was the initial difficulty I had with breastfeeding. It was intense and uncomfortable for almost 3 months. And one day it just got better and has become one of the most loving ways to connect with my baby. There is such a sense of accomplishment that I feel in having persevered when others were discouraging and I didn’t know when the discomfort was going to end. I get to bring that win into the New Year and into my life period.

By reviewing and acknowledging your successes of the previous year you get to relive the adventure you embarked upon in present time. It’s an opportunity to see how much you actually have done and not take for granted all the prayers that were answered and the desires that were fulfilled.

Some heartfelt desires of mine that came true for me were:

  • I celebrated the impending arrival of my first child with a Blessing Way.
  • I had an amazing home birth and welcomed the birth of my daughter Naima.what do you desire
  • I taught 4 Tele-classes and led almost 100 women’s circles supporting women on their growth path.

What about you? What are you celebrating from 2014? Take some time to write this out. Regularly reviewing your successes strengthens your resolve that you can create other successes in the future.

Now that 2015 is here, you might feel inspired by the promise of the New Year and think to yourself this is the year you go to church every Sunday, or lose 50 lbs, or get out of debt or complete that project that you have been putting off. However, before the end of January, New Year can lose its luster and somehow the goals that seemed so exciting get lost or forgotten in the shuffle.

When you set too many goals and attempt to do a complete life make-over in one sitting you aren’t setting yourself up to win. The goals that initially inspire you require consistent action and attention to materialize. By revisiting your plans and seeing where you are with them on regular intervals you can see if they need to be discarded or adjusted.

Even though New Year’s Eve has come and gone, you can always create an opening for the things you want to birth in the New Year and invite blessings into your life. I invite you to pick a power word for 2015 that symbolizes the energy you want to harness this year. Let it be your mantra.  My power word is completion. What’s yours? Remember, this year is your year and so is every year!

Much Love,

Kadidja

38 Things About Me

 

Birthday

1. I am 38 today and a little resistant to share my age on social media even though I like getting older.
2. I color my hair because I am not ready to go grey yet.
3. I am very fond of grey hair in others.
4. My parents are West African and my brother and I communicate in my Dads accent and it makes the conversation 20  times funnier.
5. I am 6 1/2 months pregnant and live with my honey and we are planning a home birth.
6. I really am an optimistic person and always have been. I believe in the goodness of life.
7. Right before my 30th birthday I got in a car accident and hurt my back and didn’t work for 9 months.
8. I am a trained doula and caught a baby for the first time 4 months ago by accident. Well there are no accidents.
9. I don’t pledge allegiance to any one philosophy or modality.
10. I have thrown myself some amazing birthday parties.
11. I eloped when I was 25 and that crashed and burned pretty quickly.
12. I don’t drink coffee but I love my teA.
13. Since I’ve been pregnant I’ve had some meat after not eating it for nearly 8 years. I have mixed feelings about it.
14. I am very sensitive hearted but a strong warrior woman at the same time.
15. No one asked me to the prom.
16. I have 2 tattoos.
17. When I get my heartbroken I either move or shave my head.
18. I think I am a lucky person.
19. Litter drives me crazy.
20. French was my first language.
21. When I was 17 my grand mother told me to eat well, meaning eat a lot and not be too skinny so I could find a good husband. She was a luscious woman. I’m pretty luscious now too
22. I’m a pretty private person And Share my confidence with a few key people.
23. I journal regularly if not daily.
24. Most of my exercise classes have senior citizens in them.
25. I practice and teach Orgasmic Meditation.
26. I have an inconsistent Vedic meditation practice.
27. Some people tell me I am a closet singer but I am happy in the closet for now.
28. I used to be a High School counselor.
29. I’m an empath.
30. I kind of just do what I want quietly and don’t enjoy arguing and debating about how I should live my life. To each her own.
31. I’m a Womanist who sees the world through a feminine lens.
32. I love being a Coach and helping people access the freedom to express themselves more fully.
33. I need my beauty sleep and am no stranger to a nap in the middle of the day.
34. I often can’t get through a movie and fall asleep. So if you ask me if I saw a movie I will probably say some of it.
35. My life keeps getting better and better.
36. I’m a homebody who likes to be at home and clean my house and arrange things.
37. I’m a lover.
38. What I want more than anything for my birthday is a beautiful birth experience and a a strong healthy baby.

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